When love begins to lose its voice, it’s often not because couples argue — but because of how we argue. The Gottmans describe four patterns that quietly erode connection: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. For many first-generation and BIPOC couples, these patterns are shaped not only by the relationship itself but also by cultural expectations and family histories. Noticing them is the first step toward change — and toward creating space for love to breathe again.

When love begins to lose its voice, it’s often not because couples argue — but because of how we argue. The Gottmans describe four patterns that quietly erode connection: criticism, defensiveness, contempt, and stonewalling. For many first-generation and BIPOC couples, these patterns are shaped not only by the relationship itself but also by cultural expectations and family histories. Noticing them is the first step toward change — and toward creating space for love to breathe again.

Discover how therapy can be a powerful tool for 1st generation BIPOC individuals. Learn about the unique benefits and perspectives of therapy during Hispanic Heritage Month.

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